A friend asked me if I would agree to go on a blind date. Sure, why not!
So she passes on my number. A few days later he calls. TICK! Any man willing to pick up the phone these days is a rarity and I have great respect for the courage this takes.
So we meet in the city for a coffee. I find him attractive, short, but attractive and he has a flawless smile.
We get chatting and he tells me about his job, his travels and the like. We order a coffee he tells me this is a REAL TREAT for him. A coffee… really? I think that’s a bit odd and decide then and there not to tell him about my two coffee a day habit.
The conversation continues and he tells me he is a strict Paleo dieter I ask a bit about it and I find it quite interesting. I mention to him how much I love food and going out for dinner. He looks blankly at me and replies “I don’t like going out for dinner”. This floors me. What kind of martin doesn’t enjoy going out for dinner? nice food, nice wine, no dishes. … What’s not to like? Sit me down for a nine course degustation and I am happiest girl on Earth.
I ask why he doesn’t like to go out for dinner and he tells me this is because he needs to know where his food is sourced, how it is prepared, that it must only be cooked in butter, not oil and he only eats grass fed, not grain fed meat.
In my head all I think is how would we date? Having him over for dinner would be more stressful than passing a gallstone. Nonetheless, he is nice and I come to the decision to have an open mind about it. I decide in my head that I would give him a second date if the opportunity arose.
A day or so later I get the classic ‘let up then let down’ text message “Sorry I haven’t called….You’re stunningly beautiful (queue let down)……but I just don’t think I’d do it justice right now”.
Having only been single since the start of the year I have been out of the dating game for a few years and I must admit I had not prepared myself for rejection. I felt humiliated, self conscious and floored. Rejection is never fun but that’s the nature of the dating beast.
After the initial humiliation I realised I appreciated the fact he had the respect to let me know he wasn’t interested rather than just disappear off the face of the Earth.
Rejection… ahhh happens to the best of us right?